As a Christian we should want all our non-Christian friends to be saved. The problem, however, is that many of us are afraid we will push these friends away if we preach the full gospel to them (judgment for their sins, wrath of God, eternal Hell). To avoid pushing our friends away we try to save them with an incomplete gospel. We tell our friends how kind and loving Christ is, but we don’t tell them the real reason why they need Him. We fool ourselves into believing that, if we are friends with them long enough, our faith will somehow rub off on them and we won’t have to warn them about the eternal consequences for their sins. What we end up doing is trying to save our friends without our friends knowing it.
Here is what Charles Spurgeon had to say about our delicacy:
God [has] appointed a day in which He will judge the world, and we sigh and cry until it shall end the reign of wickedness, and give rest to the oppressed. Brethren, we must preach the coming of the Lord, and preach it somewhat more than we have done, because it is the driving power of the gospel. Too many have kept back these truths, and thus the bone has been taken out of the arm of the gospel. Its point has been broken; its edge has been blunted. The doctrine of judgment to come is the power by which men are to be aroused.
There is another life; the Lord will come a second time; judgment will arrive; the wrath of God will be revealed. Where this is not preached, I am bold to say the gospel is not preached. It is absolutely necessary to the preaching of the gospel of Christ that men be warned as to what will happen if they continue in their sins.
Ho, ho, sir surgeon, you are too delicate to tell the man that he is ill! You hope to heal the sick without their knowing it. You therefore flatter them, and what happens? They laugh at you; they dance upon their own graves. At last they die! Your delicacy is cruelty; your flatteries are poisons; you are a murderer.
Shall we keep men in a fool’s paradise? Shall we lull them into soft slumbers from which they will awake in Hell? Are we to become helpers of their damnation by our smooth speeches? In the name of God, we will not.